In a girl’s day, night is the most emotional time, so chatting with girls at night is naturally the best time to get closer. However, after a day’s work, many boys seem to have no energy to think about how to chat at night. . In order to help you solve this problem, today I will tell you what topics to talk about with girls at night to bring them closer together.
1. Expand the topic
For some brothers who can’t find a topic to chat with , basically they will not expand the topic, and will only follow rational thinking. The result is that when chatting with girls, they will only ask questions, and it is easy to chat to death. To give a common example:
Male: What are you doing?
Female: Watching a drama
Male: What drama are you watching?
Female: Korean drama
Male: Is it good to watch?
Female:….
This is how most brothers chat. To put it simply, they like to break the casserole and ask questions. After all, girls won’t like the typical straight man’s logical thinking that makes chatting like a question.
The so-called extending the topic is to grasp the key points in the girl's words and then use them as extensions. For example:
Female: Watching dramas
Male: It’s such a perfect day to go out and bask in the sun, but you actually watch dramas at home
Female: You can’t go out even during the epidemic< /p>
Male: Although you can’t go out, you can bask in the sun on the balcony or rooftop
Female: Oh
Male: (Photos of pets) Look at my puppy. I almost fell asleep
Here, if you are just chatting with girls about dramas, many brothers will not be able to get in the conversation, so don’t get too entangled in topics that you are not familiar with, and just talk about what you are good at or what is appropriate. Show your self-worth and don’t spend too much time chatting with girls.
When encountering a girl with a cold attitude, it means that the girl is not interested in the topic you are talking about, so we need to change the topic in time.
2. Attitude in chatting
During the initial chatting process, girls will test boys. Determine whether this boy is worth knowing and developing. Generally speaking, we call this behavior a waste test. For example:
Female: How tall are you?
Male: 175
Female: Then you are not tall in front of boys
It seems like this is just a casual comment from the girl, but in fact it is her waste test. There are actually many "waste tests" like this, such as: "I don't like people who are younger than me" "I don't know how to test""Want to fall in love" If you cater to a girl's point of view, she will see your lack of confidence, and you will be in a low-value position; if you try to prove your point of view, it will make girls think that you are a boy who wants to save face. , naturally I won’t have too many expectations for you.
Here we also need to distinguish the difference between friends and lovers.
First of all, the feeling of friends is to cater to and fulfill, that is, to be friends. They often sacrifice themselves to fulfill the other person's needs. For example, if a girl says she is hungry, her friends will cook for her. When she encounters difficulties, her friends will cater to the other person's needs. But this is not the case for lovers. Compared with the rational integration of friends, lovers are more The blending of emotions and heart-to-heart communication. When we get along with girls, what we have to do is to control our emotions rather than satisfy our rationality.
Generally, we have two methods when encountering a waste test. For ordinary tests, we usually adopt the method of maintaining our own attitude. For example, in this case, we should say "height is basically born, there is nothing you can do about it. Anyway, I have a good character." If she is suppressing her maliciously, you can do it. You should say something back, such as "165 girls are not tall"
3. Grasp emotions
< p> Some brothers have known each other for a long time and have a good relationship with girls. They can also make each other happy, but the problem is that the relationship between the two is always just friends. In this way, they usually fall into the "friendship zone". You must know that in love If a girl takes the initiative, she has already taken the initiative. If she doesn’t take the initiative, and you don’t take the initiative, you will still be just friends even in ten years. Therefore, when you have a certain relationship foundation, you must upgrade the relationship as soon as possible. . For example:Male: Can you cook?
Female: Of course you can
Male: You know how to cook, otherwise you will have children in the future. I'm all starving
In short, in the chat, you can reveal your ambiguous relationship if you have any, and stimulate the girl's emotions, but stop at the key points, as long as the girl doesn't show resistance, then the influence will be subtle Will slowly accept the change in identity
