"Do you still want to be together when you know there is no result in the relationship?" What exactly does the "result" in this question refer to?
I believe many people will not hesitate. The answer was "get married."
It is undeniable that "marriage" is indeed the final result that many people aim for when they fall in love. So there is no need to stay together for those who cannot enter into marriage?
To be honest, there are many disadvantages of falling in love with the sole purpose of getting married that cannot be ignored.
For example:
(1) The conditions are suitable, but you are not tempted
We are getting older, and if we don’t get married, the family will have to worry about it; our parents are getting older, and they want to have grandchildren; they are not in good health, and they need someone to take care of them.
These are words often spoken by single young people.
Because of secular perspectives and biological age restrictions, what they will face is no longer whether to get married, but where to find a suitable marriage partner.
Therefore, time is limited, so what you need to choose is a person who is well matched and has the same conditions, rather than someone you like.
As mentioned in this question, if this love is fruitless, which means you may not be able to get married, then give up your current love and find someone who can get married. Can you really guarantee that? , can you live happily?
(2) Finding a partner becomes utilitarian
II After the age of ten, fewer and fewer people are able to follow their feelings to find the person they like because they are bound by marriage.
If they only care about falling in love, they are afraid that they will not be suitable and will not get married.
But for the sake of marriage, you often have to put your love aside, because love is an emotional game, and marriage is an economic game.
In order to find a good wife who matches your family, you may need to consider many worldly factors, such as her family’s economic conditions, whether her family is harmonious, whether she is highly educated, smart or not, and heredity. Whether the factors are good or not, etc. are a bunch of messy things.
This thing will make you tired in the end. Because you are no longer looking for a favorite partner, but are looking for a marriage partner utilitarianally, someone who can live together as a partner.
Of course, marriage has its advantages and disadvantages. Every choice has two sides.
Therefore, marriage is not necessarily the only result of love.
If you insist on using this only criterion to restrict your choices,If you choose, you may taste the bitter consequences of life.
In addition to getting married, there is another "result": enjoying the happiness of being in love.
You always think about pursuing happiness ten years from now. The happiness at that time may be "it's better to be single."
If you like a girl very much, but just because you may not marry her in the future, can you give up willingly?
Then you will lose a beautiful love and a relationship. Sweet moments, even long periods of feeling lost and directionless.
Moreover, I often say that you must try more while you are young, so that you can know better what kind of person is suitable for you and what kind of person you can't stand. Is a beautiful skin more important, or an interesting soul attracts you more?
When you are with the person you like, you will find that "finding the right person" is just an excuse to comfort yourself when you can't find someone you love.
Being able to be with the person you like is a happiness that cannot be compared to choosing the right person.
Of course, if you get along very well, you will also want to get married one day in the future. This choice is also related to Rushing to get married is different in nature.
At that time, you may have to face many practical problems, but because you have a basis for getting along, you understand her better, and many of your initial thoughts may have changed.
For example, at first you think her conditions are average, but after getting along with her, you will find that she is a very motivated person, capable and hardworking, and her future is limitless. So even if you are poor now, you will definitely be better in the future.
But for some people, the good conditions they have now are all provided by their families. After getting along with them, they realize that they have no strengths, which may not meet your expectations.
Therefore, it is generally a misjudgment to judge whether there will be a result with the other party before it has even begun.
