When most girls reject boys, they will say "You are very good, but we are not suitable"; "I just want to study hard now and don't want to fall in love"; "Thank you, but I have always regarded you as a good friend. "These are the reasons to refuse.
Some boys feel that they get along very well at first, but when they have a showdown with girls, they receive the above responses.
So do you know the reason? In fact, most girls will change their attitude towards you based on your usual words and deeds when they get along with you, while most boys will almost ignore it. At this point, after they were rejected, the only reason they thought of was because he was not rich, handsome, and when she pursued another girl, she ended up getting the same result.
So is this the real reason? Although there is nothing wrong with looking for problems within yourself, you must find the right problem in order to prescribe the right medicine. ah. Not all girls care about your external conditions, they pay more attention to your daily performance.
In fact, the reasons why I am always rejected by girls are nothing more than the following reasons.
1. First impression
The first impression you make after meeting a girl can be said to be very important.
Since you don’t know each other, we can only roughly understand what kind of person you are from your appearance.
Girls will observe your dress, temperament and image. If you dress sloppily and lowly, don’t blame the girl for rejecting you.
A boy who does not know how to be self-disciplined is completely unattractive to girls. You don’t need to be handsome, but you must be at least clean.
If the first impression you give a girl is not good enough, it will be difficult to develop a follow-up relationship, and the girl will not want to know more about you at all.
So now that you know the problem, brothers who have problems with their appearance can go to improve their image, and maybe you can avoid dying at the beginning.
2. Having no opinion
In boys’ minds, if you want a girl to fall in love with you, you must consult the girl on everything, which means you respect her and get her. Girls’ approval.
But the fact is the opposite. Girls don’t like to make choices, and they even hate being asked to make choices. If she can handle everything, then what’s the point of dating you?
< p> They don’t like boys who have no independent opinions and have to seek advice on everything. What they like is a boy who can lead her and arrange the date in advance.For example, during a date, many boys like to ask: Where do they want to go today, what do they want to eat, where to eat, etc. During this time, you can both focus more on getting to know each other instead of meeting each other on a date. Only when I was wondering where to go.
So judging from your performance, girls willThey feel that you are immature, unable to plan, or even too dependent on others, so they reject you.
But if you arrange a date in advance, the girl will feel that you are very considerate and feel safe with you, and it will also make the girl realize that you value her.
Chatting is to use your relaxation, humor, and talent to make a girl feel beautiful, and when you look at this girl who is happy because of you with satisfaction, you will feel: Chatting is a thing worth enjoying. .
Stop chatting anxiously, let alone racking your brains to think about how to reply to a girl’s message, because in this state, no matter how hard you think, you can’t say anything to make the girl laugh. .
3. Chatting to death
In this Internet age, most people spend their social time on their mobile phones , so chatting with girls is very important.
Do you know why there are so many people dating online? Because they are flirting, and you can gain love just by chatting. Isn’t it amazing?
Unlike you, who just chat a few words. can end the conversation, just like the following conversation:
Male: "What are you doing?"
Female: "Busy"
Male: "It's okay, I'm not busy."
Female: "..."
Facts have proved that your emotional intelligence is really unimaginably low. So you should have some idea why girls ignore you, or even don’t reply to your messages at all.
There are also many boys who have no topic at all when chatting with girls. They are just talking nonsense. On the contrary, the more they chat, the less they know what to say.
In the end, your relationship has not improved, and it may even make girls think that you are a boring person, and they will simply ignore you.
In the end, girls reject you for various reasons. Maybe they feel that they have no common language and can't talk to each other, so there is no need to waste each other's time anymore.
If you can’t relax yourself, then you should understand that it’s not because of anything else but because you don’t have enough ink in your stomach and you need to study!
1 .Whether you are suitable to chat now and whether you have enough time and experience.
If you still have something to do at hand, then chat after you finish it, because the first few chats with a strange girl are worth devoting yourself to and enjoying it for a newbie. Believe me, you will like it. .
2. Have you thought about the topic to talk about at the beginning of this chat?
Everything is difficult at the beginning. If you can bring up a topic that girls like after saying hello, then you have already won half the battle.
Before chatting, you can browse the girl’s circle of friends and pay attention to her recent interests and hobbies.
3. Determine the girlWhether she is busy now can be judged by the speed, content, and emotional expression of her replies.
If she responds slowly, has fewer words, and is obviously not in the mood for this chat. Then it is possible that she is busy or not interested in you.
It is recommended that you wait until after eight o'clock in the evening to chat with girls. Most girls are more free at this time.
4. Know how to praise.
In the instructor’s understanding, everyone likes to hear nice things, and no matter how beautiful the girl is, it is no exception. But the question is whether you can understand that flattering a horse’s hooves is worse than not flattering.
To develop a pair of sharp eyes and find some unknown details and advantages in her body to praise. This can not only show that you have unique vision and taste, but also show that you understand her and care about her.
For example, she carefully selected hairpins to match her hairstyle and so on.
5. Learn to pay attention to the emotion when speaking rather than the content of the speech. This is also the difference between emotion and rationality.
You can understand this through the following simulated dialogue.
Pretty girl: I didn’t eat in the morning and I’m so hungry now. (Emotion: Hungry Content: Didn’t eat in the morning)
Ordinary boy: Then go eat quickly. Or why didn’t you eat in the morning? (Focus on content, rational thinking)
Love master: I feel sorry for the baby, he is so thin due to hunger. (Focus on emotions, perceptual thinking)
