Question:
I have been in love with my girlfriend for a while. Maybe it’s because she loves me so much and has a strong desire to control me. She wants me to follow her even when I go to the toilet. Kind of, that's why I came to the teacher for help.
One time I was having afternoon tea with her and a few friends outside, and then I accidentally sat a little closer to a girl. Then my girlfriend found out and suddenly stood up from the seat opposite. , and then squeezed in between me and the girl.
Almost everyone noticed such a big move. The scene was very embarrassing at the time, and the girl also looked panicked. It was such a big deal that she could have just reminded me quietly, but what is the name of what she did? Not only did that girl scare him, I was so embarrassed that I wanted to dig a hole in the ground and crawl under.
Although I knew that she was showing her love for me, the way she did it was so bad that it brought me an extremely bad experience. There are many similar situations like this. It’s so tiring to be in love with her. So I hope he can change, but I don't know how.
Answer:
This question involves one of the most common confusions among couples. Relationships are based on mutual giving. In layman's terms, the so-called "giving" means "I am good to you" and "you are good to me."
But what does it mean to be "good to you"? This question should seem very simple to everyone intuitively, but many people just can't figure it out.
In this case, this girl really cares about our client and really loves her. However, in everything, too much is never enough. No matter how great the kindness is, if it is expressed in the wrong way and the consequences are very bad, it doesn't matter whether the starting point is good or not.
That's how "good" between lovers is. It doesn't mean that you think it's "good", that means you're being nice to them. . Is your behavior appropriate, and is what you give him or her what he wants? This is the key to judging whether it is good or not.
At the same time, for ourselves, the other party always behaves inappropriately and often makes us feel uncomfortable. No matter how good her intentions are, we should not always tolerate and accommodate the other party. Otherwise, we will not only hurt ourselves, but also hurt each other, because this is pampering and killing your love.
Back to the topic, our client should be emotionally considerate of his girlfriend and understand her feelings. But when it comes to getting along, the issues that both parties need to resolve must be resolved.
The heroine’s reaction when she discovers that her boyfriend is too close to a strange girl can be said to be acting on instinct without thinking at all. This shows that she rarely considers other people’s feelings.
Therefore, you should express your feelings without reservation and let her realize how much trouble her behavior has caused you. Repeatedly remind her not to be so impulsive when things happen, but to think more carefully, and to engrave this awareness in her heart to form a habitual memory. It is best to tactfully persuade her to take some courses to improve her emotional intelligence.
At the same time, just doing her homework will not completely solve the problem. You must also cooperate well. Your homework mainly lies in two aspects.
The first is to let her know that you love her, change your behavior when you usually get along, and hug and hold hands more often.
Second, reduce some behaviors that will make her jealous.
